Friendship that Lasts Forever | Emotionally WellBeing | Miss Shalini Tiwari
We all talk about best friends forever, love for life. I know it’s a great feeling and everyone needs to be loved, deserves to be loved, but you think if it is making you insecure putting you in the situations to question your worth and that’s love and that’s friendship. We all celebrate Valentine's day to celebrate love, friendship day to celebrate friendship, even in our social media accounts, they wish you on your friendship anniversaries. International friendship day is coming soon it’s great news but is this friendship is about having 100 friends on facebook and feeling alone and unloved?
I think it's not real friendship. Friendship is a deeper relationship. Its warmth can be felt in your heart and if there is one true friend by your side you can never be alone, depressed and anxious. most of the cases that I have seen patients dealing with psychological problems are having a deep feeling of loneliness, feeling of not being loved. This leads them towards severe depression, anxiety, fear and sometimes to suicidal deaths. Having relationships making you anxious and leaving you insecure in your shell is quite common but leading this to define your whole life is not. People start making boundaries to avoid to get into such situations, but it is not the solution. From here the problem arises leading to severe psychological problems.
I know its good to have friends, Its good to have someone by your side saying I love you all the time; but that’s not enough. first, you need to be your best friend, your greatest lover before you ask someone else to be. when you look at the mirror, Have you ever thought that the person in the mirror is someone with whom you want to have a forever relationship? Most of us will say no because we have so many negativity in our heads about ourselves before it comes from outside. These negative self-talks you are having in your head, for example, I am too fat, I am too skinny, I am too ugly, I am too dark, I have pimples, I am having wrinkles, my voice is not sweet as him or her, my hairs are not perfect, its too curled, too straight, my moves are not good as others, my skills are not good in comparison to others, etc. all these negativities you are keeping about your self is harming you. Before the judgment of society, you judged yourself, you criticized yourself and from here the problem arises because when you are not satisfied with yourself, how can you expect someone else to be when you can't accept yourself ? how can you ask someone to accept the way you are?
Let's take an example when there is a friend of yours; saying he is so bad at singing so, what you will do? you will appreciate him, try to motivate him, by saying he is good, he is perfect because you know his worth, you love him and you have accepted the way he is. But when it comes to yourself you are so negative, you judge yourself. Why can't you appreciate you know the abilities of your friend who you have known for the past six months but you don’t know yours. You judge yourself by your disabilities by what you can't do but you want others to know it well before talking about scars, Talk about the beauty. See you with appreciating your abilities. We all have demons in our head but angels in your head are stronger. First, be the angel of your own life, be your best friend, be your lover and see how beautiful feeling it is and it's not that hard. Treat yourself like you do to your loved ones, support yourself as you do to your loved ones, care for yourself as you do to your loved ones and most importantly Be the first person in the list of your loved ones.
No negative self-talk. See the positive vibes coming out from you. Some of my friends used to come up to me and saying only you can solve my problems and it was the moment I was dealing with my demons but anyhow I helped him and he is happy but during this course one thing that I realized that I can be the solution to their problems so why can't I solve mine and at this moment my every problem was solved because I am the best possible solutions to my all problems I am my angel and most of our problems arising psychologically is due to our this negative attitude towards life, negative self-image, self-doubt criticism. Don’t let this overpower your strengths.
I hope next time when you look at the mirror you know you are seeing the best person in this world and improve every day and try to be a better version of yourself so that when you see yourself you can say because of you, I never give up. Thank you for being with me and I love you dear you are the best thing ever happened to me....
I think it's not real friendship. Friendship is a deeper relationship. Its warmth can be felt in your heart and if there is one true friend by your side you can never be alone, depressed and anxious. most of the cases that I have seen patients dealing with psychological problems are having a deep feeling of loneliness, feeling of not being loved. This leads them towards severe depression, anxiety, fear and sometimes to suicidal deaths. Having relationships making you anxious and leaving you insecure in your shell is quite common but leading this to define your whole life is not. People start making boundaries to avoid to get into such situations, but it is not the solution. From here the problem arises leading to severe psychological problems.
I know its good to have friends, Its good to have someone by your side saying I love you all the time; but that’s not enough. first, you need to be your best friend, your greatest lover before you ask someone else to be. when you look at the mirror, Have you ever thought that the person in the mirror is someone with whom you want to have a forever relationship? Most of us will say no because we have so many negativity in our heads about ourselves before it comes from outside. These negative self-talks you are having in your head, for example, I am too fat, I am too skinny, I am too ugly, I am too dark, I have pimples, I am having wrinkles, my voice is not sweet as him or her, my hairs are not perfect, its too curled, too straight, my moves are not good as others, my skills are not good in comparison to others, etc. all these negativities you are keeping about your self is harming you. Before the judgment of society, you judged yourself, you criticized yourself and from here the problem arises because when you are not satisfied with yourself, how can you expect someone else to be when you can't accept yourself ? how can you ask someone to accept the way you are?
Let's take an example when there is a friend of yours; saying he is so bad at singing so, what you will do? you will appreciate him, try to motivate him, by saying he is good, he is perfect because you know his worth, you love him and you have accepted the way he is. But when it comes to yourself you are so negative, you judge yourself. Why can't you appreciate you know the abilities of your friend who you have known for the past six months but you don’t know yours. You judge yourself by your disabilities by what you can't do but you want others to know it well before talking about scars, Talk about the beauty. See you with appreciating your abilities. We all have demons in our head but angels in your head are stronger. First, be the angel of your own life, be your best friend, be your lover and see how beautiful feeling it is and it's not that hard. Treat yourself like you do to your loved ones, support yourself as you do to your loved ones, care for yourself as you do to your loved ones and most importantly Be the first person in the list of your loved ones.
No negative self-talk. See the positive vibes coming out from you. Some of my friends used to come up to me and saying only you can solve my problems and it was the moment I was dealing with my demons but anyhow I helped him and he is happy but during this course one thing that I realized that I can be the solution to their problems so why can't I solve mine and at this moment my every problem was solved because I am the best possible solutions to my all problems I am my angel and most of our problems arising psychologically is due to our this negative attitude towards life, negative self-image, self-doubt criticism. Don’t let this overpower your strengths.
I hope next time when you look at the mirror you know you are seeing the best person in this world and improve every day and try to be a better version of yourself so that when you see yourself you can say because of you, I never give up. Thank you for being with me and I love you dear you are the best thing ever happened to me....
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ReplyDeleteNice thoughts. I am so thankful for what you did. It help me a lot. Thanks again.
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